Jamaica Blue: The Win Win Approach - Michelle Gibbings

Adopting a win-win approach to 2018 could change the way you engage with others, and bring about a transformation in your life.

When talking to Jamaica Blue magazine recently about adopting a more positive mindset for the year ahead, there were two words that popped up regularly in conversation. Find out what they were, and read the full article, here.

Adopting a win-win approach to 2018 could change the way you engage with others, and bring about a transformation in your life.

When talking about adopting a more positive mind-set for the New Year ahead, there are two words that pop up regularly in conversation with career trainer Michelle Gibbings, author of the best-selling Step Up.

Those words are ‘intentions’ and ‘curiosity’. Gibbings believes how we utilise both into our daily lives can make the world of difference in our encounters in the relationships we have.

It’s all part of adopting a ‘win-win’ approach to life; an attempt to approach daily situations and differences in a way that best suits all sides.

“It all comes down to the intentions you’re setting for yourself every time you are engaging with people,” she says.

“It’s about going into each encounter with the intention you want the other person to walk away having felt it was a good use of their time, and you also feel you also got the most out of it.”

Curiosity comes into play, Gibbings explains, in terms of being interested enough to know where a person is really coming from in each exchange.

“Be curious to what’s really going on for them, as opposed to being quick to assume we understand what’s happening,” she says.

“When you’re curious, you’re exploring matters with compassion, and will get a much better outcome because the other person will be more willing to tell you what’s really going on. It should lead to better outcomes for everyone.”

Adopting a win-win approach to life requires a different mind-set, and also demands a healthy dose of patience.

Gibbings explains one of the first steps to embracing this style of exchange is to attempt a reversal on the reactive state that modern life often expects from us.

“Reactivity comes from the fact we’re all so busy and trying to cram so much in our days,” she says. “We’re expected to identify situations quickly and then act quickly in the moment to deal with matters.

“To achieve this kind of a mind-set shift, it comes down to taking steps to change the way you approach life.”


Starting each day by meditating can create the perfect calm foundation for the rest of the day to build upon.

“When you meditate, it slows down the speed of your mind, and just provides a better place to start from to deal with the day,” she says. “You respond far more wisely and in a more balanced way to what’s going on around you. You then deal with everything in an easier way.”

Daily Intention

When approaching each day’s schedule, being clear on your intention can help create a path for you to then follow.

“When you know how you want to approach each day, that’s really important for how you take on each situation and each person,” she says. “Intention is about being completely present in all your dealings, as well as mindful in the way you behave.”

Adopting an Attitude

Make a commitment to find resolutions to the various hurdles throughout the day, and be open to negotiations to settle matters so they work out well for all.

“This is when you need to be curious, rather than reactive,” she suggests. “Attempting to clearly understand what has brought about a situation than just reacting to it is a better way to find a solution that will, hopefully, work out best for all.”

Turn down the noise

In this age of social media communication, when relationships can too easily be destroyed by a word out of place on Facebook or an unreturned SMS, giving others the benefit of the doubt can be the approach that averts unnecessary disaster.

“There’s so much ‘noise’ out there and it’s too easy to misinterpret someone’s actions, because we are putting our own spin on it without knowing the facts,” Gibbings says. “So rather than just assume, ask direct questions. It might save so much drama.”

Pay attention

Clear intentions are the start, but paying attention to the details can create a determined, smart approach to what’s worthwhile, leaving behind the irrelevant.

“We sometimes forget we have so much choice about what we let impact us, so we need to pay attention to the things that matter and just let go of the stuff that doesn’t,” she says. “This is when you can turn the volume up on what’s important, and turn off what’s not. It’s your choice.”