There’s no doubt that workplaces are complex environments – bringing together a melting pot of people with varying ideas, assumptions, experiences, expectations and ambitions.
They can also be highly destructive. The damage that unhealthy work environments have on people and their mental well-being is well known.
Some people believe that if a work environment is too collegiate, people stop challenging each other and consequently, ideas are not robustly debated. On the contrary, combative environments where a dominant person subjugates the ideas of others and it’s highly politicised isn’t healthy either.
If you want an engaged and productive workplace where ideas are constructively challenged and people are encouraged to go beyond the norm, consider how you nurture and encourage friendships.
Why does this matter?
Our brain quickly assesses whether it sees someone as ‘friend’ or ‘foe’. It sizes someone up and makes a judgement as to whether a person is ‘in my tribe’ or ‘outside my tribe’.
The brain then processes the information we receive from that person according to which category we’ve put them in. What this means in practice is that if two people are saying the same thing to us, and one person is considered a ‘foe’ and the other person a ‘friend’, we will interpret what they are saying differently.
It’s like giving someone the benefit of the doubt. We will do that for a friend, but not for a foe.
In the workplace this means if you see other people as ‘foe’ you are more likely to misinterpret their intent, which in turn leads to distrust, disagreement and unproductive competitive behaviour. None of which help to build a collaborative and productive workplace.
In his book “Vital Friends: The People you can’t afford to live without” Tom Rath outlines research which shows that employees who have best friends at work are 7 times more likely to be engaged in their jobs.
Additionally, if they have at least 3 vital friends at work, they are 96% more likely to be satisfied with their lives.
Good friends don’t just agree with you. They challenge and inspire you to greater heights. They help you see things from different perspectives and to explore new ideas. It’s much easier to take input and feedback from a friend who you trust.
Similarly, having an affiliative and collaborative environment makes it easier for ideas to be debated, agreed on and progressed.
If you want to develop an influential and effective team, consider the role that friendship can play in helping to create the culture you need to excel.
Change happens. Make it work for you.
Michelle Gibbings is a change and leadership expert and founder of Change Meridian. Michelle works with global leaders and teams to help them accelerate progress. She is the Author of ‘Step Up: How to Build Your Influence at Work’. For more information: www.michellegibbings.com or contact [email protected].